Do you ever notice a skill that someone else has, and it makes you wish you could spend more time learning something? You really wish you would spend more time cooking, learning another language, playing an instrument, or exercising? Me too.
- I am a good cook, but could certainly be better. I need to try more recipes and get out of my comfort zone.
- I am a great singer and performer, but could definitely be better.
- I do a decent job at keeping up with oil changes, dentist appointments, etc. But I could probably be a little more on top of things.
- I have some friends who make themselves look super cool on stage! Wish I could spend more time finding outfits and stuff.
- I take piano lessons. I’m improving but I could be SO much better and should be spending lots more time practicing.
- I write good songs, but after working a 9-hour day, I feel too tired to write a damn song! Need to write more.
- I do not clean. I just don’t.
- I exercise regularly. And I’m so proud of that! I’m feeling great. But I only go twice a week. So I’m often the slowest person in the class.
- I am a great friend. But I know so many wonderful people! I have friends who are getting married, getting divorced, having babies, have sick family members, so much going on. I wish I could be a better friend and have more time for everyone.
- I am a great daughter/sister/aunt/granddaughter/daughter-in-law etc. I work hard at it! But I am blessed with so much family. I wish I had more time with all of them.
- We have some good videos on Youtube. But we need more! Lots more.
- I love to go see local bands. But we could try to get out more. Damnit, we’re always playing!
Do you notice what’s going on here? There are only 7 days in a week. How can I work full time, be in a band, take piano lessons, cook dinner, go to the gym, clean my house, and see my friends and family? The math just doesn’t add up. Mathematically speaking, with a fixed dividend and such a large divisor, the quotient is bound to be small. (Meaning…with a fixed amount of hours in a day or week, and so many things to spend time on, you can’t possibly spend tons of time on every single thing.)
Don’t you have the same problem? Too much to do and not enough time to do it?
So what do we do? Should I just quit the band and then I’d have more time for everything else? Well that’s the craziest thing I’ve ever said! Should I quit my job? My mortgage company sure would be upset if I stopped making house payments. Should you stop taking such good care of your kids? They probably wouldn’t like that too much.
So what do we do? Breathe. Give yourself a break. Understand that you cannot do it all. Focus on one thing this week, and something else the next. With some organization and planning, you can maximize your time, and try to give everything a turn.
Most of all, understand the math behind the situation. If you have a LOT of things to spend time on, then you can’t possibly spend tons of time on everything each week. So just breathe and accept it! Keep pushing forward and don’t beat yourself up for not being an expert at everything.
THANK YOU for reading!